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I deleted YouTube from my kids Tablet and you should too

Raising kids in this day and age has become quite challenging. Being a mom of three from ages 5yr to 6m, it feels like I am a blender running at full speed without a lid. I am sure mommies can relate with that.

Managing work(from home), household chores and running around kids has its pros and cons. When I had my first daughter it wasn’t that difficult. Well!! To an extent it was lol coz my life suddenly became all about her sleeping, pooping and eating schedules. My second born comes pretty soon after the first one. And by the time I had her, elder one was already being introduced to Rhymes (that I’ve downloaded in a USB from YouTube) on TV and got use to of listening and watching music, animation and sounds etc. After the second baby it becomes difficult for me to manage everything. Keeping elder one busy while the younger one sleeps wasn’t easy considering the fact that I was living alone.

That was the time perhaps when I had handed over a Tablet to elder one. She was 2yr+ old then. She loved to play with music apps and watching movies on it. By the age 3 she got use to of the Tab and by age 4 I noticed that it has become an addiction for her. In between she has started to go to school too. Her first demand after coming from school was tablet.

She’s a hyperactive kid. Always keep you on the edge with her antics but when she has the Tab, there’s a sudden mood shift. She started to get hooked to Tab and I don’t know exactly when but she started to browse videos on YouTube from suggestion videos. She’ll sit silently at one place for hours holding the Tab which is impossible for her if the Tab wasn’t there. I also noticed that she becomes really fussy whenever I try to take the tablet away from her.

That’s when I intervened and kept a close eye on her. I’ve told her to keep the volume up while using Tab so that I have an idea what is being played on her screen. There were screams and weeping sounds of some videos featuring her favorite characters Elsa and Ana from the movie Frozen. When I watched those clips I was like WT*. It wasn’t even kids content. Elsa is being shown as pregnant, sometimes with Spiderman, huge syringes and obscene acts like delivering a baby and what not.

That was the time when I decided to cut down her YouTube interaction. I’ve put filters on YouTube app but they didn’t work. Then I downloaded some Disney movies and educational videos on her tablet and made her watch that but she keeps going back to YouTube. With her knowing where the Wi-Fi tab is.

Then I decided to delete YouTube. She behaved like a maniac first few times but then I diverted her attention and finally succeeded to let her Tab addiction go. It took some time but totally worth it. Now the Tab is away from her since past few months. Whenever she has to watch some cartoons she will watch them on the TV. Husband has made a habit to download some kids movies like Barbie series, minions etc for her every weekend. Her current favorite is Inside Out and Baby boss. I have written this post 8 months ago and publishing it now just to let all you mommies know that you can get your kids off screens but it will require some time and effort. Hang in there.

Also, I feel YouTube needs to filter its content for kids in a better way. The app is not at all safe to let kids use it on their own. Maybe a kids section with completely safe browsing options will make YouTube a better app for kids but if it is not happening, YouTube ain’t safe for kids. Keep an eye on what kids are watching as it has a huge impact on their behavioral pattern and psychology.


I suggest visiting the YouTube channel Mera Sabaq. Highly recommended for Urdu learning. Download videos and let kids watch them via TV.

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#FitHongiMein – Of post partum healthy diet and detox 

Remember that cabbage soup diet that I have posted earlier? Apparently it has been quite famous for weight loss around the world. I must confess that I did not like the idea of having it every single day but considering the results, I was definitely intrigued. It was challenging to see if I can eat that regularly and then I got pregnant and ditched the plan lol. 

A couple of months ago I have given birth to a beautiful baby girl alhamdulilah and since then all everyone expects from me is, “Pait k liaye kiya kar rahi ho?”,”Belt use ki?”, “shru k hi months main pait andar hogaya tou hogaya warna motapa naseeb main hai” etc etc. Although it wasn’t my first baby but the pattern of advises was exactly the same. Who doesn’t want to be fit? Of course I wanted to be physically and mentally fit but the problem is an infant who is EBF and you’re the only source of nutrition in first 6 months. It is already hectic to take care of kids and home while living alone. 

So, my struggle during postpartum days wasn’t really about losing weight but staying healthy and energetic. Having two elder kids of the ages 5 and 3 makes me feel lethargic and drained. Doing household chores, taking care of infant, spending sleepless nights with her then getting up for the school of elder one and so on. All this hassle was taking toll on my health. I needed something to boost my energy levels without any harmful effects  for the baby. Nursing moms need to have a good diet and healthy foods due to which you can’t really focus on calories but definitely you need to have nutrient rich diet with detox drinks. 

So, I started consuming a cup of Tapal Green tea early in the morning with some honey and cut down white sugar gradually. Tapal green tea with Catechins not only aids in reducing weight faster and in a healthier manner but also helps regulate metabolism and the best part is it comes in various different flavors. Apple cinnamon and tropical peach being the exotic flavors and current favorites of many. 

What’s your tips and tricks to stay healthy and fit during post partum days? Do share in comments. Always remember that U need u so be there for yourself. Eat healthy, drink healthy and detox. 

5 Old wives tales about gender predictions during pregnancy

There are lots and lots of myths and old wives tales that you keep on hearing about once the news spreads that you’re expecting. Trust me I’ve been there multiple times and still there are things about pregnancy and childbirth that I hear and wonder, like seriously? I am sure many of you moms went through it. 

Here’s my list of old wives tales that I keep on hearing about gender of the soon-to-be-born keeping ultrasound aside. Do correct me or add if you know any. 

Bump shape 

The most common one. There are ladies who look at your bump and predict the gender of your soon-to-be-born like a pro. Whatever science or X-ray eyes they had. Traditionally it is believed that if you are carrying high with a big, round belly, you are having a girl. If you are carrying low with a smaller but straight out belly, it’s a boy. 

Was it true for you? I am into 6th month of pregnancy and carrying low. So, let’s see how true it goes. 

Cravings

In my family particularly I’ve heard that if you start hating Chai and don’t feel like consuming it during pregnancy, you’re carrying a boy. People also believe that if you are craving salty foods while pregnant, you can count on having a boy. 

According to these parameters, I am having a girl coz I am having tea regularly but I am craving mostly salty foods too. So, it’s a 50-50 kinda scene for me lol. 

Leg cramps

They say you’re carrying a boy if you’re experiencing leg cramps specially in your left leg. If your legs get swollen or you feel them getting bigger, you’re having a boy. 

Hmmm. According to this weird assumption I’ll be having a boy. 

Mom’s Beauty

Talk about pregnancy glow lol. If you’re having acne and feels like your beauty is vanishing during pregnancy, you’re having a girl. It is said that the girl “steals” the mother’s beauty. 

I am unsure about this as the freckles that previous pregnancies have given me are starting to show and I feel like using makeup a lot. I am undecisive. 

Morning Sickness

This one is interesting. A smooth pregnancy with no morning sickness means a boy. I was super nauseated when my girls were born but at my son’s time the nausea onset was after 6 months. 

This time around I didn’t have a vomit or nauseating feeling so far, not even once. Kinda strange. 

Can you predict the gender of my baby based upon all of the above old wives tales? I will update this post once the bundle of joy is born. InshAllah. Till then keep us in your prayers. 

#AchayiBarhneDo – A meaningful TVC 

As a mom I know the struggle of raising kids and teaching them to be empathetic towards their siblings or friends. We are living in a digital age where such sensitive messages needs to be conveyed rather subtly to young minds so that they can learn the need of inclusivity. With Achayi Barhne do themed ad, BlueBand Pakistan has done a commendable job.

My kid paid attention to the message despite being so young while watching the ad. She was intrigued that why the kids started to play like that. I think I couldn’t have taught her what she has gained from watching it. That’s the power of visuals and storytelling. 

Blueband’s new TVC revolves around inclusivity theme where a bunch of kids can be seen showing empathy towards a differently-abled friend of theirs. Afterall, disability is not inability.  They all showed unity by playing volleyball one handedly so that their differently-abled friend can feel the fair play. Much needed message, not only for kids but us adults too who often forgets that such people around us need our support more than our sympathy. 

The reaction of the mom watching all this from far was as similar as mine while watching the TVC for the first time. I wanted my kids to be raised like that. I want them to be empathetic and kind. All the reasons to keep spreading goodness around. 

Hats off to the team behind the scenes for executing the message beautifully. Keeping the brand identity intact. In the end it all sums up, Achayi Barhne do aur bachon ko bhi. 

Birthday Dowry 

This is a something that as a parent I felt connected too and want all parents to read and understand. When a birthday celebration is taken as a social status, there is need for introspection because your child can be the next victim.

“I am a psychiatrist and few days back I had this six year old child as my patient. His parents indicated no obvious cause for his depression.
To assess the problem I started a conversation with him, asking all kinds of general questions. Intermittently I asked if somebody said anything to him, which he refused everytime. In the same flow I asked when is your birthday and suddenly he started crying. I knew I hit the right chord.

He had his birthday one and half month back and a birthday for a child is a big occasion. It’s the day when he/she gets all the limelight, specially nowadays when birthdays are celebrated like big occasions in school where you have to give all kinds of gifts to the whole class, cake cutting, sweets and many times even a party.

Seeing and expecting what his classmates do, he too craved for a pomp and glitter kind of birthday celebration so that he could also feel importance among his friends. The school even invite parents on the child’s birthday for cake cutting in the class.

This child’s parents are a middle class family and haven’t done anything like this in past, so they avoided going for the cake cutting, instead gave him a packet of toffees to distribute. Now isn’t it obvious when everyone else is distributing gifts on birthday, how low and odd you will feel while distributing toffees. You start feeling outclass. This is exactly what happened to this child.

Over the years, it seems that this birthday tradition has changed. The fancy celebrations are on the rise, putting a dowry like pressure on the child leading to depression.

I can understand the pressure for parents as well to meet or exceed the standards of celebrating a birthday. For many families, budget may be tight, and spending money on treats for the whole class is not a priority.

Celebrating a birthday at school is a special occasion for any child, but it can be celebrated by having some fun or a small treat from the school side, which should be same for every child. School officials should avoid promoting such celebrations and also explain to headstrong parents, that there is an important lesson here that kids need to understand: Birthday fun does not require cake and gifts.

Parents, schools and society at large must oppose it because celebration has no limit and tomorrow even our child can feel the same. It is easier to cut out the birthday celebrations entirely than to have children with sad feelings on their birthdays.

Give them a happy reason to celebrate occasions, not gifts and fancy parties. Well off parents has a special responsibility here- you can make your child feel special at your home, but at school let them be what they are- school going children.

As a psychiatrist, I request my doctor friends, teachers and others to share it because your words can create more impact on the psychology of the parents and the school administration.”

Credit – Doctors for ethical care( detcare) and thanks to them for allowing me to share this post as a blog because I feel it is important to convey.